The majority of people lack knowledge of their emotions and how they function, which makes them poor at handling challenging emotions.
They don’t realize they’re really avoiding their own worry, not their work, which is why they repeatedly put things off.
They fight constantly with their partner because they are unaware that criticizing them serves as a bulwark against feelings of inadequacy and loneliness.
Their reliance on low-cost coping mechanisms that provide short-term respite but ultimately exacerbate anxiety makes them feel pressured and anxious all the time.
To feel better, you must comprehend the true functioning of your emotions.
Regretfully, most people believe that emotional intelligence is something you either naturally possess or learn about on your own after reading a fantastic book or hearing some sage advice.
However, in actuality, it’s neither.
Good habits, or the things you consistently commit to doing, are the foundation of emotional intelligence.
Four traits of emotionally intelligent persons are listed below. As you incorporate them into your life, you’ll notice an increase in emotional intelligence.
1. Talk plainly about your emotions
When was the last time you heard an adult say, “I’m feeling sad or I’m really angry right now”?
I was shocked to see that, even among my clients in therapy, people hardly ever utilized simple emotional words to express their feelings!
However, if you spend any time at all with young children, you’ll come across a lot of expressions of emotion. I’m upset at Sophie for hitting me! or I’m depressed. It was raining today, so we didn’t get recess.
The majority of adults intellectualize their feelings by expressing them using conceptual or metaphorical language.
For instance:
Rather than saying I’m angry, we say I’m just stressed.
We say, “I just feel kind of down,” rather than, “I feel sad.”
